Through some trials and tribulations of our vanilla part of our relationship lately, it's been required of me, well us realistically both of us need to do this, to outline what I want in the D/s part of our relationship. While I in no way think this is a final list, it'll evolve as time goes, much as our sexual relationship has evolved, I hope this clarifies as to mistresses' wishes.
I've kind of organized a list of things we currently do, things I'd like to try one day, things that pique my interest.
Pain play: I've only recently been introduced in to this, and found I really enjoy where it takes me. Mistress does well of pushing my limits, knowing what to do. I wish we did this more often, but know reality means we're limited. She found a way to send me into sub space with this just on the couch last week. It's not the pain that I seek per se, but the place she takes me.
Ass play: I'm not afraid to admit I like it, privately at least, not a discussion among friends. We have a session tonight scheduled, a bet I lost the other night. Would like to try being plugged for times. We've shied away from lately as I've had an aversion to the lube I believe, hope the new lube we bought is better, trying it this morning seemed ok. I have a feeling she won't be nice tonight.
TPE: I think this has been the subject that's been hard for us to agree, for lack of better terms, on how to implement. We both agree that it should be an asset to our overall relationship. We just need to agree to how and what we want. Some times I feel that when we've agreed to TPE for a period of time, I don't get enough direction as to what to do what she wants etc. And we've talked about that, and I think we both realize that negotiations for when we are TPE time need to further and define what we want.
Topping: We're moving on to things that I'd like do or try. This one isn't necessarily I haven't done. But, I do want to top occasionally, not necessarily in a pain situation, but sexually. Assuming she wants that. She just has to ask.
Humiliation: She does this a little some times. But, for some reason, I have this urge to be broken down mentally. Humiliated, her little slut, at her mercy. Hard to describe this one, if she has questions that could help me describe this better, I'm sure she'll ask them.
Threesome: Every man's dream right? Having two hot women in bed with him. Probably doesn't need much explanation. I know it would need to be discussed in depth, boundaries, limits etc, but I know our relationship is strong enough to do it some day. And I know she likes women so that helps.
Bisexual Threesome: Honestly, it intrigues me. Whether or not it's something I want in reality or just fantasy is TBD. But don't know until that time comes.
Slave/Puppy play: I sent(as frequently do) porn pics the other day that depicted pony and slave play. Some day would enjoy being her slave for a time period. I know she is interested in plug with a tail, so one day she should ask for it.
Hope this helps her. There's time when we're in play, whatever scenario that may be, that I wish she were more forceful, more vocal in demanding things of me, but know that some of that is her growing in to the top role. I want more defined punishments and rewards for what she wants.
I'll end with things I'd like to add to our growing play stash: Ball gag, spreader bar, real strap on, face dildo, leather clothes for her, my own collar.
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